marriage; till death do us part.

Instead of constructing an organized post, I am going to semi-blab here.

Usually when I think of a word I think of a string of other things that connect to the word; something like a thought-tree. So, like a tree, my thought material branches into many different lines of theories/series of questions/hypothesis (es).

Sort of like with “bible” you think God which then connects to religion which is connected to blasphemy which in turn connects to Da Vinci and then the possible hoax, which leads to questions like fact or fiction, or is Christianity for real; and then you think of Christians; which in turn leads you to think of their frantic attempts at evangelism, and their faith, and issues of whether it is blind, or given, objective or subjective.

Therefore, naturally, with the word ‘marriage’, I conjured a whole tank-full of thoughts up in my head.

Why do people marry? Why do most people marry? If you main purpose in life is not to marry or your life not based solely around the hunt for a mate then are you severely dysfunctional? What if you want to marry late? Worse still, what if you are a GIRL AND YOU WANT TO MARRY LATE? Or if you don’t wanna marry are you strange, are you weird? Do all girls dream of getting married? (We have to bear in mind gender roles and what influences them; social/biological but that is another story) What is marriage? Why does one marry? What causes one to marry? What influence is one under when they decide to marry? Is LOVE ALWAYS THE SOLE DECIDING FACTOR? Is marriage a tradition; or is it the norm, or is marriage both a tradition and the norm? Is it an essential must-do in life? What is the current attitude towards marriage? Do you marry with divorce as a possibility or till death do you part? Is marriage necessarily connected with love- i.e. do you marry then fall in love or fall in love then marry? Or what if you fall in love and not marry? Is that wrong, is that a sin, would you go to hell? Does your marriage need to be recognised by law? (informal union/defacto) What sort of marriage, homosexual; heterosexual? What if I’m a girl and I like a girl or if I like a guy that likes a guy then who will marry who?

“I won’t think about marriage until I hit thirty.”
And then came the blatant response:
“Who wants to marry an old hag?”
why do you want to marry
i have to marry because i am the only son and therefore i have the responsibility to continue the family name.

Well if that someone is narrow-minded enough to consider a thirty year old successful woman) in her prime (Re: Sex and The Awesome City) an old hag, then please go fuck yourself and find a nice demure quiet village wife who will happily bear your kids and spread your seed so you can continue your precious bloodline so to speak. Who wants to marry a fucked up male with a fucked up mind with fucked up sperm to continue his fucked up bloodline?

There will be more than enough girls who will be willing to fall at your feet and mate with you because they want a protector a father for their kids, a breadwinner and a provider. And there will be even more girls who will steer clear away from you; because they do not need you to be their protector and provider; also because of your retarded mindset that will be your ultimate downfall. In this era, we make our own decisions and whether we want to get married or have kids or not is really not Your decision to make.

Yeah pardon the excessive use of fucks I swear I am normally quite nice and don’t usually overload on the fucks. Only when necessary. I made an exception this time.

Anyway, to continue the marriage debate; the perspective from which you look at marriage contributes to your thinking. Is it sacred and for life; or is it temporal and in the moment? In the old fashioned context a woman had to marry a man because it was her ticket out of life. In the modern context a woman will have to marry a man especially if she is Chinese from the mainland and wants a ticket out of Communist China.

No, really.

In the modern context people marry because they assume they have found love. Either that, they will settle for the mediocre love they have conveniently found and marry because they are getting old; as a security for their future. People marry now for all the wrong reasons, so they can have kids, on whom to impose their hopes and dreams on; to make their son become the lawyer or doctor they could never be. To ensure that there will be someone at their funeral when they die. We Evolve. We Become Families. Marriages become Families; Families ensure Procreation. Procreation ensures Survival. Survival of the HumanKind.

And So We Marry
And We Worry About Not Marrying
And Worry about Who We’re Gonna Marry.
The fat girl that ugly boy? Oh no bad genes.
We are the Worry- Nation. Consumerism. Perfection.
But these; they belong to other thought-trees.

(Please Note: Yes Marriage may be a happy thing; two people fall in love and marry for the right reasons; raising kids and wanting the best for them is not necessarily a wrong intention; the list can go on. And no, I am not always this pessimistic. I also dont happen to be a man-eating feminist. Just absorb and think more by yourself. I don’t have enough space here to write all the pros for every con. I am feeling more con towards marriage now. So there. =) )